A little preview…

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Hello blog friends!!! I can’t believe it’s been almost a month since I’ve been able to write!!! Everyone told me that our wedding day would FLY by and sure enough, it did!!! And then between the honeymoon, moving Matt in and another sweet friends wedding, the weeks AFTER the wedding have flown by too!!! I still don’t really think I’ve been able to catch my breath.

I wanted to write a quick little post to let you know that yes, I’m still alive and yes, this little blog will continue even though #072013 has come and gone. However, right now we don’t have internet in our townhouse so that makes things a little more difficult… AND the blog is getting a facelift and I just can’t wait to show you more of what’s in store 🙂

Please sit tight for a little bit and I promise the new & improved blog (along with a pretty big announcement!) will be up and running soon… complete with an “after the wedding” post series and a few others I’ve got up my sleeve!

Here’s a few pictures of our wedding day to get you through 🙂

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Why all the details?


I’ve talked a lot on here about the details of our Big Day… what the ‘maids are going to where, what types of flowers we’re going to have, how amazing our photographer is…

But someone said something to me the other week that really, really hurt & got me thinking about WHY I really do care about all the lovely details. (I know this person does not read this blog so therefore I don’t feel like I am calling him/her out however I’m not going to use their name. I’m only sharing this because it struck a cord with me that I think needs to be addressed.) This person was talking about how it’s completely ridiculous that I’ve put so much time & effort into the wedding; they were saying that everything about it is a scam, a waste of money and that Matt should want a wife who cares about more things than the wedding day. This person was also so blunt as to tell me that, unlike me, when they were married they made the MARRIAGE more important than the wedding.




I really had absolutely no idea what to say. I think I said something similar to “bless your little heart” and walked away. Embarrassingly, I am have then gone on my lunch break & shed a quick tear or two.

Although I know this person truly does NOT like me (I think we established that one!)and this was all said out spite, it still got me overanalyzing WHY I’m doing what I’m doing. WHY is this SUCH a big deal?! WHY have I spent a YEAR of my life planning?! WHY have I been dreaming of this for my ENTIRE LIFE?

Because it’s the first day of the rest of our lives.

Cheesy, but true! Our wedding day isn’t about the flowers or the dress or the food, it’s about our commitment to one another and to God, before those we hold most dear. The details helps us to EXPRESS that. I get an opportunity to shower my groom with what I do best… plan! And Matt and I get an opportunity to, as a couple, define who we are to our closest friends through the decisions we make about our big day. It’s the first day of the rest of our lives… why would we not want it to be amazing?!

Yes, the details, oh the details… they make my heart so excited I can barely stand it! And I pray every.single.day for no rain on July 20. And I’ve counted and recounting all the wedding decor to make sure it boxed, labeled & tagged just right…

But absolutely NONE of this would mean anything if Matt wasn’t the groom. I want our day to be dream-like, enchanted, romantic & magical because I have prayed for 24 years, dated him for 6 and loved him for 5… and now we have forever. How amazing!!!!

Now y’all know I love to plan. It’s always, always been a part of who I am. I strongly believe plans make things go smoother; they make the final outcome more enjoyable; and I honestly just have a really good time planning & organizing practically ANYTHING (it’s a problem, I know). So obviously planning our wedding has been a BLAST. I have had SO much fun!!!! I loved picking the fonts for our invitations and deciding on the color rose petals should go down the aisle. I find so much joy in all of those simple details. Does that mean I’m more excited about that then being his wife? Absolutely not! 

I read a quote on SMP one day that hit home with me. Forgive me for not remembering the exact wordage but to summarize: the blogger was saying that bride’s care so much for the details that make their big day so special because there is so much LOVE behind those details. AMEN! Why else would bride’s spend months and months on all of this!? Does it really matter what font we use on our invitations or if the rose petals scattered down the aisle are pink or white? No, not really. In the end, the vows will be said with the kiss sealing the deal… I’ll be his wife come 7:30pm July 20, 2013 and I truly want to cry just thinking about THAT detail 🙂

So to those of you planning a wedding: plan on, sweet brides, plan on! Pour your heart, pour your love into those details … but never, ever loose sight of the end result.

And to those of you who find all this “wedding planning business” a hunk of bologna: My heart is so sad for you. And not because you have no passion for planning, or you hate picking out wedding fonts & rose petal colors, but because you, dear friend, don’t have the desire to shower your groom with the details of the day, to pour your love out into an event that, God-willing, only happens once in a lifetime… and is the start of your very own happily ever after.



Wedding Planner 101: Having a VISION


072013 is almost exactly 5 months away and that’s CRAZY! I remember hitting the 10 month mark in September and feeling like July was forever-away. Boy was I wrong… these last 5 months have gone by SO fast and I’m sure the next 5 will too. That’s both really EXCITING and TERRIFYING! I feel like there’s SO much more to do yet I can’t WAIT for the Big Day to finally be here! But this post isn’t about the to-do list (that’ll be tomorrow’s post!). Today I wanted to talk with you about having a VISION. That, my friends, is so very important during the wedding process. EVERYTHING and I do mean EVERYTHING stems from that! Not only do you and your hubby-to-be want guests to ENJOY your wedding experience, but you want everything from the venue to the flowers to the décor to flow effortlessly together.

So where do you start? How do you come up with YOUR vision when Pinterest is exploding with so many possibilities?

It’s actually pretty simple! Sit down with a cute pen, your wedding binder & your fiancé. Start brainstorming! Write down key words/phrases that you want guests to think when they see your wedding. Write down what YOU want to feel when you walk into the reception – when you see everything put together for the first time. Do you want something bold & bright, rustic & charming, soft & sweet? How do you want to feel in your wedding dress: relaxed, casual, like-a-princess? How do you envision your groom: tux, bowtie, jacketless with the-sleeves-rolled-up? All of these things shape EXACTLY what your wedding will look like! Do you want guests playing yard games during cocktail hour or sipping on red wine on the patio? Here’s an example: my sweet friend Olivia just recently got engaged (YAY!) and when I asked her what she was thinking she said she envisions guests walking into the reception and saying a breathy “ahhh”. She wants guests to be completely breathless, she wants something soft and simple & so breathtaking in itself. Because of that, her color palette is very soft, light and spa-like – using creams, greys and blue-hues. Now can you image if she chose red & teal? Not the same reaction right? Now red & teal or so fun together – but you don’t think “breathless” with red & teal do you? She and her fiancé have a vision and are stemming other aspects of their wedding off of that very theme.

It can make the planning process SO much easier if you have an idea of what you’re looking for. Pinterest can be INCREDIBLY helpful however it can also be REALLY overwhelming! Once you have a vision, a theme, you can better pick wedding colors, a venue, your dress, and Pinterest-inspired details to incorporate.

Day Two of our engagement I made our list… now, at this point we didn’t even have a DATE set yet! We had NO vendors booked… NOTHING was done. But I knew in order to help me find direction in all of that planning, I needed something to always come back too. Yes, you guessed it, I was always that girl who dreamed of Wedding Day… but when it was ACTUALLY about to happen it takes on a whole new meaning! Matt and I sat down and talked about what HE wanted in our Big Day too so there are aspects of our wedding that are being planned BECAUSE of him and because of OUR relationship. Here are a few words we came up with initially:

Matt’s List: Traditional, Southern, Formal Atmosphere and Some Aspect Outside

Kat’s List: Romantic, Happy, Bright, Tons of Flowers and Full of Details

Now here’s how this lovely list has shaped our wedding: A traditional church ceremony with romantic candlelight; a night wedding, groomsmen in full suits and long bridesmaid gowns; a pink and orange color palette is bright & happy while also tying in our favorite colors; our reception venue is unique, very southern and incorporates outdoor elements; it also happens to be in a garden so there are plenty of natural blooms around. We also have several details to leave guests saying “that is so Matt & Kat” but I won’t be giving away those just yet  

Because of our vision, 072013 is coming together so much easier than if I had NO idea what we wanted! Clearly those adorable burlap & lace mason jars would NOT fit into our vision however white lanterns, candles, happy balloons & bright ribbon fit right in!Have YOU thought of a Wedding Day vision? What are you dreaming up in that pretty little head of yours? Or on that Pinterest board I know you have? 🙂

always, kat